If you’ve ever been in love, you know the internal firework feelings that comes along with it. You spend hours planning, day dreaming and thinking about the other person during those times you are apart. It may take trying on every outfit in your closet just to find the right one for your next date. You daydream about what you will say or do next time you see them. When you are together you speak and think in poetry. It’s a living dream and fantasy. How is it possible to feel like this and then for all these feelings to disappear a few years later or maybe much sooner?

According to Bruce Lipton, PhD cellular biologist, you created this ecstasy and you can recreate it. In his book the Honeymoon Effect, Bruce explains at a cellular level what happens to get to this place of heaven on Earth. I’ll save the science for Bruce but in layman’s terms here is what happens. You want to be in love. You look for this love and when you think you’ve found it, you focus all your efforts on creating this relationship of your fantasies. You act in a mindful state regarding everything about this relationship. The chemicals in your body change as your thoughts change. Your thoughts create your feelings and they just keep getting better! You are living in a mindful state and creating heaven on Earth.

We don’t typically or automatically stay in a mindful state. Our powerful subconscious rules the show 95-99% of our day and night working off programs that were put into our subconscious by those around us when we were in utero to around 7 years old. We did not judge these programs we took in when we saw, felt or heard them. We just accepted them into our subconscious as our programming because that is what our system automatically does. With this powerful subconscious, we walk, talk and do all sorts of things without taking our conscious effort to do so. We live on auto pilot except for the very thing we are thinking about and consciously focused on at the moment. This is a really helpful system except that most of us have a lot of junky programing. When we are in the throws of passion we are not working out of that subconscious programming, we were living in a mindful state. As time goes on in our relationships, we move back to our programming and then we wonder who is this person we married. They didn’t used to act this way? Did they trick me into thinking they were someone they are not? No! They were being how they wanted to be but over time the subconscious took back over and they became their programming.

There are two ways to get back to feeling the love again. #1 is to be more mindful. Consciously create the life of your dreams just like you did before. The hard part about being mindful is the subconscious is 1 million times more powerful than the conscious mind. The subconscious is always trying to run the show. Being mindful is a constant struggle for most of us living in this busy world. It might be easier to be mindful when you are young and free but add children and jobs and other life stresses and most of us move to subconscious survival mode. I’ll do dinner, you run Jonny to soccer, I’ll go pick up Mary from dance, do you have time to pay the bills because we are about to incur late fees? This type of life which most of us live is prime for running off our subconscious programming. Our conscious efforts are spend on the todo list and not on creating heaven on Earth. Is there an easier way to feel the love again? Yes there is!

Option #2 for creating Heaven on Earth is to reprogram the subconscious mind. How would your relationships be if these were your subconscious beliefs, your automatics about your relationships? It’s easy for me to give love to others. It’s easy for me to receive love from others. I am worthy of an intimate, passionate relationship in my life now. I am willing to risk loving and being loved. I am clear about what I want in a relationship. I am comfortable, confident and enjoy expressing my sexuality in a relationship. I am able to maintain my individuality in my relationship. I allow other to learn their own lessons in a relationship. It’s okay for me to set boundaries in relationships and I do. I allow myself to be vulnerable and sensitive in a relationship.

If these beliefs were your subconscious programming and you acted this way automatically, would your relationship change? Absolutely! My favorite part about the subconscious mind is when we get it to move in the same direction we consciously want to move, we feel peace, joy, happiness and even bliss. We get to stop trying and start being and being is Heaven on Earth.

Reprogramming my subconscious is how I fell in love all over again. What a joy to live each day of my life in a way I never dreamed possible. Learn more about the ease of reprogramming your subconscious mind.

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